Many young people today believe that love marriage or court marriage is the easiest solution when two people like each other. However, based on my early experience in legal practice, I want to share a few important observations with my friends and especially with the younger generation.
At the beginning of my career, I was also involved in arranging court marriages. But after some time, I noticed something concerning, the success rate of many rushed love marriages is very low. Of course, there are exceptions, and some love marriages are successful. But a large number of cases face serious problems within a short period of time.
Often we see very young couples, sometimes 16–17 years old girls and 18–19 years old boys, running away from home and immediately getting married through court marriage. At that age, emotional decisions are made quickly, but the responsibilities of marriage are much bigger than emotions alone.
Marriage requires maturity, responsibility, and the ability to handle life’s challenges. A man must be capable of earning and protecting his family, and a woman must have the understanding and maturity required to build a stable household. Without these qualities, the relationship can quickly face difficulties.
One of the biggest issues in such marriages is the lack of family support. When a girl leaves her home without the approval of her family, she often loses the emotional and moral support of her parents. At the same time, the boy’s family may also hesitate to accept her completely. This situation creates pressure on the couple.
Another common issue is financial stability. If the boy is not yet capable of earning or managing responsibilities, the couple may struggle to maintain their relationship. Family pressure, financial stress, and social challenges often become the main reasons why many such marriages fail within the first year or two.
In some cases, after a court marriage, families file legal complaints or pressure the girl to return home. Emotional scenes in court, parents pleading, and social pressure can lead to further complications, sometimes even resulting in separation.
This does not mean that love marriages are always wrong. Some couples truly understand each other, make compromises, and successfully build a life together. However, the key difference in successful cases is maturity and responsibility.
My advice to young people is simple:
If you truly like someone, do not rush into an emotional decision. Focus on improving yourself first. Build your career, become financially stable, and gain maturity. When a man is responsible and capable, and when both individuals are mature, families are far more likely to accept the relationship.
In many cases, what starts as a love relationship can successfully become an arranged marriage with family approval. When families support the relationship, many of the obstacles disappear.
So instead of running away or making impulsive decisions, work on your future, strengthen your character, and earn the respect of both families. If the relationship is genuine and both individuals deserve each other, it will eventually find the right path.
Marriage is a lifelong commitment, and decisions about it should be made with wisdom, patience, and responsibility, not just emotion.